Caving In is the next topic in the Everything DiSC® Productive Conflict Reference Guide that this series of Productive Conflict blogs will address. Everything DiSC® says:
“Caving in can be particularly tempting because it often feels like the absolute quickest way to end a disagreement. Even though it typically means sacrificing our legitimate rights, the pain of being in a conflict can be so excruciating that we take immediate shelter in this option. Of course, this short-term gain is often at the expense of long-term satisfaction and can eventually create very unbalanced, unhealthy power dynamics within a relationship. Ask yourself: What is the long-term cost of giving in right now?”
Does this describe you, or someone you know? Although we wish that the conflict went away if we ignore it by just giving in, it doesn’t. At some point, the conflict will resurface or repeat. If we look at the previous two topics, arguing and belittling, caving in would create an open invitation for these actions to work their way back into our relationship. As example, if someone belittles you and says you are stupid, ugly, or untalented in some way, and you cave in and agree just to avoid continuing the discussion, they will eventually tell you that again down the road. Don’t set yourself up for repeat negative treatment like this so nip it in the bud from the start.
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